Breakups. We all deal with them at some point in our lives. Sometimes they are expected, and other times they come out of nowhere and smack us right across the face. Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, breakups are tough. Here are some tips to help get you through those difficult breakups.
Resist the urge to contact your ex
This may seem impossible when you’re in the situation, but it’s very important for your sanity. In order for you to move on, you need to try to remove this person from your life as much as possible (unless you decide to “just be friends,” but, let’s face it–that never really happens). Delete his or her contact from your phone, remove them from your Friends List on Facebook, Unfollow them on Twitter; do whatever you can to try to forget about them and move on.
Turn that negative energy into something positive
When you’ve just become single, it’s hard to want to do anything other than lay in bed and eat ice cream all day. Unfortunately, that’s just going to make you feel worse. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for yourself; get up and make art. It will get your mind off of things and you may just create something really wonderful. Some of the best lyrics are written by musicians who are going through a tough time. Try an art form that you may have once enjoyed, but put on the back burner when life got in the way. Pick up a paintbrush and get to work.
Distract yourself with television, video games, and movies
Whenever I want to escape reality, I play a good video game to take my mind off of my troubles. Sometimes it’s nice to distract yourself from all of the hardships you’re facing. Go on a Netflix binge and catch up on those shows you never finished. When I went through a rough breakup, I binged on Malcolm in the Middle, a show I never finished watching while it was on air. The show made me laugh uncontrollably, which helped me get through that extremely distressing time in my life.
Make some time for yourself
When you’re in a relationship, you’re always thinking about how to make your partner happy, wondering what they’re doing, or just spending time with them in general. Now that you’re single, take some time for yourself. Everyone needs a little “me” time. Get a new haircut. Get your nails done. Redecorate your bedroom. Go for a long walk or bicycle ride.
Spend more time with family and friends
Whether we mean to or not, we sometimes neglect our friends and family when we’re in a relationship. Now is the time to spend more time with them. Go for a long walk with your dog, have a nice dinner with your mom, or catch up with an old friend over coffee.
And, most importantly, just remember that everything happens for a reason. You will come out of this a stronger and better person.