Every couple argues sometimes, and that’s okay. Arguments are a normal, healthy part of the relationship equation, but it’s how the couple handles the argument that matters. Arguments, if handled correctly, can actually strengthen a relationship. Here are some tips to avoid letting arguments get out of control.
1) Don’t bring work/school-related stress home
Sometimes, it’s hard to come home and not complain about how hard your day was. It’s okay to talk to your partner about what’s bothering you, but don’t let him or her expect to hear you complain as soon as you walk through the door. Try to keep work or school-related stress out of the relationship.
2) Don’t get into a heated debate when you’re exhausted
When you’ve had a long, hard day, the last thing you should be doing is fighting with your partner. When you’re both exhausted, don’t argue. If it’s something you feel you really need to talk about at some point, postpone the argument. You’ll just end up saying things you don’t mean if you fight when you’re tired. Get some rest, then try resolving the issue.
3) Don’t make the argument personal
In the heat of an argument, we tend to say things we don’t mean. Remember, you are arguing because there is an issue that needs to be resolved. Don’t just scream insults at each other; that will accomplish nothing. Instead, remember what you’re arguing about and try to come up with a solution. Remember – you both love each other, and insulting each other will make you both feel bad after the argument is over.
4) Don’t fight over petty stuff
When you do argue, do it over something that actually matters. Arguing about what to eat for dinner is just a waste of everyone’s time. You want to minimize the number of arguments you have, so make them count.